Ah... I had written a long answer, but it was all over the place, because there are so many aspects and angles to this.
But no, you weren't entitled to any commiseration, and we cannot change other people--only our own reaction to to them. That said, I don't think it's wrong to have certain expectations of others, maybe not their exact behaviour, but their emotional reaction*. And also to have our own emotional reaction to theirs. Of course deciding what to do with this and then hopefully be able to let it go, is also part of the equation.
(*which is of course why it's difficult in this situation, because he might have been genuinely sorry, even if it wasn't evident)
![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
branchandroot
no subject
Date: 8 Sep 2018 11:24 am (UTC)But no, you weren't entitled to any commiseration, and we cannot change other people--only our own reaction to to them. That said, I don't think it's wrong to have certain expectations of others, maybe not their exact behaviour, but their emotional reaction*. And also to have our own emotional reaction to theirs. Of course deciding what to do with this and then hopefully be able to let it go, is also part of the equation.
(*which is of course why it's difficult in this situation, because he might have been genuinely sorry, even if it wasn't evident)